Sleeping Update [Crib to Bed]

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Not only do I want to document, but also share about a big milestone that has been marked off the to-do list here at Chateau Deveau: big boy bed - transitioned.

Not to get too into his infant ways, but to re-cap a little of our sleep journey - simply put, the Little has always been a great, flexible sleeper.
We implemented a version of 'Baby Wise' that worked for us (schedule/routine eating/sleeping) and at six weeks old, the Little was sleeping 'through' the night (6 hour stretches). He was always put to bed awake and would put himself to sleep without any tears or fits. Now don't think we are insensitive parents - we have a great bedtime routine where we sit together and cuddle and read books and rock, but we would not put him to sleep in our arms. We'd give hugs and kisses and lay him in his crib, awake, and as he got older we would even receive an occasional wave and 'night night momma/daddy', then we'd leave the room.
We approached each new 'milestone' anxiously - having a roller/belly-sleeper, getting rid of the swaddle, common-age sleep regressions, time change/daylight savings, traveling/sleeping other places, etc. and would think 'ok, we're in for it this time..'. No matter what we were 'warned' about or 'should expect' to come up, we maintained what we could control--schedule, routine, reactions. Everything worked it's way out, we'd make adjustments if necessary and with very few hiccups along the way, we praised the Lord we were blessed with such a great sleeper as we laid our well-rested heads on our pillows each night.
Let me disclose, I feel like there is a big secret and a reason why he's been such a good sleeper - the pacifier, more specifically, his WubbaNubs. He's used a pacifier since he was a baby and it's helped calm and put him to sleep - he would suck on them, but sometimes just hold them. When he couldn't find it in the middle of the night he'd get upset and cry but then be fine once he had it back. By at least 18 months, we had cut the pacifier back to only a nap/nighttime/sleep thing, which worked out just fine for everyone; it's definitely remained a soothing/comfort thing for him and something he'd reach for as soon he was laid in bed.
So here we are now, the Little turned two years old and we are expecting baby #2 and we plan on using the same crib for the new baby. We decided we wanted to get the Little transitioned into a big boy bed in time that he would not associate it as a negative with the baby coming. It worked out just right that we got a free twin bed/frame from some friends so we started to talk about the 'big boy bed'. I ordered some bumpers to avoid any unnecessary fall-outs and to help make it a little harder to just slide in and out himself. We talked more about the BIG BOY bed and how Mom and Dad need to help when getting out of bed.
The morning I knew would be his last time waking up in the crib I took these pictures. Looking at them I get that same feeling the morning we packed up and the Mr. took him to his first day at daycare, the emotions I had the exact night I nursed my Little for the last time.. Those milestones and moments that pass so quickly but leave such an impression on my mind and heart as it's just another step forward, proving time is moving right along and the vividness of my first baby is becoming more and more a distant memory..
We got the bed set up and all in place just in time for nap. As we got ready to lay him down, we decided let's just do this, big boy bed AND no pacifier. Looking back, the timing may not have been the best, as the Little had seen his WubbaNub right there and then we decided to take it away, but after maybe 10 minutes of whining and crying, the Mr. went back into the room to let him know he was ok and was in his big boy bed and it was time to take a nap - and then, he took a nap.

The Mr. and I sat with the monitor and watched, just like our first night home with our brand new Little sleeping in his crib and many, many times since, just watching him sleep. Watching every move and turn, making sure all was ok.

And just like that my baby was out of his crib..
It's been a few weeks now and guess what? The pacifier is GONE and he LOVES his big boy bed. The first night or two he would look around for his pacifier but finally just flopped down and went to sleep. There have been no issues in the middle of the night with him searching for it and getting upset, it's like he remembered it wasn't there so he didn't bother. He hasn't tried to get out, he hasn't protested going to bed. There have been lots of high-fives, affirmations and mornings of praise with our 'big boy in his big boy bed'. He loves it and is so proud to show it off and even demonstrate how he lays in his new bed.

In the words of the Mr., our little guy is just straight-up gangster. We are so proud of him and couldn't be more pleased with how he's handled this change.

Please remember, I am not bragging, I'm sharing and documenting OUR experience. Just as your experience is unique and special, so is ours. We each have our own struggles, trials and challenges as parents. No, I don't think we're just lucky, I think we've done things to help the situation and teach our Little how to sleep and to trust that we are still there and will come get him. We've learned from things we might change for the next time, and we've knocked on wood plenty of times and are already holding our breath that baby #2 will be just as gangster..


  1. Girl, you are AMAZING!!!!! We haven't been brave enough to transition Mason's crib into a toddler bed yet. In a way, I feel like he would be fine. But in another way, I feel like we will be up all night every night and nobody would sleep anymore. And I'm not too ready for not sleeping again! Haha. Definitely bookmarking this for future knowledge!

    1. Thanks Elizabeth!! It's all Tyson, really. :) We were really in no rush to get him out of a crib either, til we figured we needed it for the baby. Take your time. I think you mentioned Mason took a nap on a cot/mat the other day? I bet he'll do better than you expect in a bed then, but we were the same and expected the worse. :) We had a few experiences staying at my parents where T slept on a mattress on the floor and he did fine so I guess that's why I say M might be good too, you know?
      Talk about it with him and be consistent, come time. You guys will figure out what works best for you. We just reiterate that 'mom and dad have to help you OUT of bed', and we keep it a place for rest/sleep, we don't play on the bed. And lots of celebration in the little things and accomplishments, that keeps it fun for everyone. :)

  2. phew! What a great and easy transition. Aria is a fab sleeper and has been from the start. She transitioned from her rock n play to the crib terribly though. So I'm definitely apprehensive about moving to the big girl bed. I hope it goes as smoothly as yours. We've had full nights of sleep for so long now I don't want to go back ha. I've got lots of fingers crossed that it will end up being much easier than expected.

    1. That's great A is a good sleeper!! I know we prepared for the worst, but were pleasantly surprised with how he did, especially with no pacifier, we thought that would at least be a few nights of up crying, etc. Hope you will be surprised with a smooth transition too!! :) Good luck, when the time comes.